Saturday, September 18, 2010

River Cruise/Other Tourism



River cruise was great, beautiful limestone (karst) piled up mountains, misty river, water buffaloes, cormorants (for fishing), some simple (old fashioned) houses etc.  Plus, a whole line of boats in a line taking tourists down the river.  Buffet lunch.  Men in simple wooden boats approached our big boat head on, then grabbed on the side with a big meat hook contraption, and tried to sell products, mostly ‘jade’.   Its 4 1/2 hours down, 7 hrs back. They go downriver full of tourists (2/3 Chinese, 1/3 from many other places) and go back empty -- long working day for the captains. 

We personally get shepherded around in a minivan, with AC.  AC is key. Driver plus English-speaking guide with a degree in English Tourism (ie Chinese tourism for English-speaking visitors).  Her university also had degrees in hotel management etc. Whenever we are done at a museum or whatever (eg get off boat), she calls ahead and the driver meets us at the exit.  We feel a bit like emperors, but boy is it nice. When we go out alone the traffic is difficult for us.  Have to stick like glue to someone who looks like a low risk-taker (e.g. are not texting). 

Culturally/geographically, GuiLin city is very modern -- neon, cars, many motorbikes and scooters. Not so many bicycles since 2-5 years ago. It’s a very small city, I think she said 700K*. No skyscrapers (>7 stories) are allowed due to the city relying on tourism -- they don't want to block the beautiful views of the limestone mountains all around. There are 4 interconnecting lakes in the city with walkways around and artificial lights in many colors (lots of greens) lighting up the trees (banyan, osthmanus (sp??), a lot of recently built bridges in varied architectural plans (e.g., Crystal bridge, golden gate bridge, various dynasty style bridges, Greek style) -- all built in recent years, with a master planner, with tourism in mind.  The tourists seem to be from all over – not easy to tell by looking where a person is from. Its not over-run by Americans only.  (We met a couple from Columbia yesterday on the boat who asked us if we had tried to have a baby “the other way” – the question was so out of the blue and in Spanish that they repeated it in English and Dave got it.  Made me laugh.  People ask the oddest questions!)   On a related subject our guide explained that the pandas (we saw 3 this am in a zoo) don’t know how to make babies or how to look after them, so they have to show them DVDs, to help them know how to ‘make the sex’.  We all thought that was pretty funny.  Can this possibly work? These DVDs were not on display for the tourists however.


*Guide was shocked to hear Canada has <35 million people ("That's 2 Shanghais!"). She knew it was 2nd largest in size and the capital, and she wants to go to Vancouver.


Along the boat trip and minivan trip back to Guilin, we could see more rural and regular life. Rice growing, also grapes (for eating), lotus leaves, Chinese cabbage (I think bok choy), etc. From the car only, garages fixing motorbikes with welding machines, and a couch and tv with grandparents/young children in same room.  Laundry hanging on balconies of big apartment blocks.  Little children without helmets being transported in laps on motorbikes and scooters. Many 2 story houses are shells on second floor (unpainted concrete, no windows). Our guide said the family has enough money to decorate the first floor for now, but when their son gets married or they get more money they will add windows etc to 2nd floor.  Not all houses do have windows though.  Related to windows, Mimi had bad mosquito bites on her legs that are healing. 

Of course this will sound like a silly proud parent, but we are kind of amazed at what she can do.  Used a 2 word sentence yesterday.  Can take lids off and on water bottles (more impressive since she only has one hand) -- she does have a bit of a wrist though on the other hand, and uses that a lot, holds things against her  chest etc.  She has quite impressive strategies to get stuff done with the one full hand plus arm/wrist.  She can eat with various utensils (not 2 chopsticks yet, though she did successfully spear dumplings and pick them up).  Learning stairs (up). etc.  Helps to get dressed (eg lifts foot to put on pants or shoe). Likes to thumb through books with real paper in them (still not impressed with the board book; so sorry to have misunderestimated her).  Well, its all normal stuff but it is a great relief to see her so healthy and happy....  its great she was in foster care.  She was clearly well taken care of and in a home with real affection and playfulness, based on how she interacts.

Jenn
           
      

Thursday, September 16, 2010

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Random unedited updates...

1. We took a normal Chinese train 5 hrs yesterday from Nanning to Guilin.  That was great, glad we did it.  Happy also to get off and back into a lovely hotel! 

2. Tayler aka Mimi LOVES dave.  First she called him Baba, but now its Mama.  She has now warmed up to Caitlin. I assume I am next.  Luckily I am patient.  We have decided I am playing the role of Don Draper (in Mad Men), only the fatherly role, that is.  Eg. Provider (of food from buffet), distant figure.  Dave is playing the role of  Betty, without any paid assistance (or the intense beauty regimens).  His arms are tired.

3. Personality wise, Mimi (Tayler) oves to laugh, play little games (eg pretend to feed you, swipe it away and eat it herself).  She loves to walk in lobby of hotel, swinging her arms and smiling.  She loves to take lids off water bottles and dump them out.  Loves the stacking toys.  She is a fantastic sleeper. First night she told us when she was tired (pointed at crib). Next 2 nights I told her it was bedtime (in Cantonese, are you impressed?) and she walked to the crib, and Dave settled her in and sat next to her until she slept.  Then she slept til the morning. She used to have a bath 2x a day, and loves the few we have given her.  (ok, the 2 baths in 3 days which is about 4 too few. Our guide was NOT impressed we didn't give her a bath the first night.  Hey, if she were older and we shared a language she would say, "But I had one LAST night!!")  Those of you who know our daily childrearing know the whole-straight-to-own-crib and frequent child washing are not our prior style. IE given our nomadic early-parent lifestlye C didn't have a crib.  We are trying not to mess up the sleeping.  Sleep experts out there, all advice appreciated!  (how often have you been dying to smarten us up on this subject before??? this is your chance).  She was also toilet trained.  She does not like the diapers.  We just can't manage the holding technique to put her on the toilet, partly because we have Western toilets in the hotels.  Ok and partly because we have no idea what we are doing.  We don't care if she regresses on this, really.  She is 17 months old, come on!    She loves to eat.  Prefers familiar foods (I guess they are familiar...ie not Western foods).  Likes congee but yesterday and today we couldn't get it and she is eating normal enough soft foods plus formula. Loves watermelon and grapes.  She is helpful (when in the mood) re dressing.  She seems very healthy and happy (apart from missing her foster mama).  She is shorter and plumper that Caitlin was at the same age. Smaller feet even than C's at 12 months.  Then again, C now wears a women's 5. Mimi has a great smile and crinkles up her eyes when she is happy. Infectious giggles.  She has 10 teeth.  Can drink out of most things (eg bottles, straws, juice boxes [likes to assemble by herSELF!], regular water bottles, cups with help). Does not use utensils (ie chopsticks) but likes to feed herself or for us to feed her with chopsticks. Sometimes wipes her mouth on a napkin when she is done (very cute). Loves cellphones (are you all laughing now, since we don't have one?)  -- listed as her favorite toy on info we received.  Managed to trade 2 grapes for a phone from someone on the train, then turned on the music. Tried to take a picture with it. 

4. We toured a giant cave (0.5 km walk around it) this am with new guide.  Tomorrow is long day, including 4-5 hour boat ride. Will be beautiful.  Hot.  Yesterday was 35 degrees, tomorrow maybe 32. A bit humid.  We are staying here in Guilin (google it) which is quite touristy.  IE not like the train.  Had eggs sunny side over this am for example.

5. Dave and C are swimming now in the pool.  If Mimi wakes up I am ready for the screaming! 


Jenn

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Tuesday with Tayler

Tayler was a real champ last night sleeping until morning and waking a bit groggy but not too unhappy. She perked up after the visit to the breakfast buffet (just like her dad).  We spent the morning taking care of official business to complete the adoption including an interview with a provincial official and an interview with a notary and a final meeting the orphanage director.  Each meeting was finished with an exchange of gifts (I hope they like Penn State Football in Southern China--hey, what else can you find in State College?).  By the end of the morning, all paper work was done and Tayler is officially ours in the eyes of the Chinese government.  We celebrated by going to Walmart.  I know shock/horror.  Tayler continues to warm up to her new family and is full of giggles.  Enjoy the pics of the new sisters.

Dave


Monday, September 13, 2010

645 am on Tuesday

Hello everyone,

Tayler’s nickname is Mimi. We didn’t make that nickname up. It is from her name in Cantonese.

When we were waiting to meet her, our guide Belinda went into the other room and took a picture of her sitting on a rocking horse—one of those kind of plastic ones. Then they brought her in and Mom held her and she was crying at first but then we gave her a bottle and she stopped crying. She kept on eating Cheerios. She would stop crying when I gave her a Cheerio and then cry again.

And she talks in her sleep. She sometimes says Mama, or just mumbles or says words that sounds like they are made up to us.

Caitlin

Finished by Jenn: Now she is waking up and Caitlin is feeding her a bottle.

We are now a family of four!

Well we finally have Tayler in our lives!  As you can see Caitlin loves being a big sister and Tayler is on board as well.  It has been a magical day with with screaming, clutching, soothing, Tayler teaching us some Mandarin (her second language), many tears and laughter all around and we are all pretty tired. We did go out for dinner and then she fell asleep in my (Dave's) arms about 930, smiling. Given the info we received that her normal bedtime is 12 we hope this is not a nap. We promise to post more pics and write more later but for now we are going to try to get some sleep.  Much love to you all!

Dave, Jenn, Caitlin & Tayler